I do this every year, though it’ll be the first time that I’ve done it on this blog - recount my New Year’s resolutions from the start of the year, and see how I did. This is what I had on my mind twelve months ago, then:
- Get better. This one’s hard, because my memory of the last year is a little fuzzy. In some respects, I think I’ve become more stable. I’ve demonstrated to myself that I can hold down a job, and while I still have issues with anxiety they’re not as pronounced or prolonged as before. There are still cracks. I still struggle with my family, and my fears for the future, but they’re fading concerns. I’m gaining a space where I can focus on maintaining a positive mental attitude.
- Plan to move Arden to the UK. Obviously, plans have changed - but in terms of moving to the US, things are plodding along at the sort of pace you’d expect from American bureaucracy. We’re still looking at next summer.
- Organise myself. I’m more organised than I was over the course of my degree, and while I haven’t yet got into a routine for creative stuff, I’m getting there.
- Go outside once a day. I’ve at least got behind the spirit of this - I’m not scared of going outdoors anymore (I was agoraphobic, I’ve realised, for a good portion of 2011) , and I’ll often go for walks even in miserable weather. Fresh air does wonders for your brain.
- Be sociable at work. It’s early days, but I think I’m doing okay here. Obviously my colleagues aren’t quite my age, but I’m fitting well into the team. Jobs are funny things.
- Don’t lose the people I care about. I haven’t. I wrote this one at the end of a year with a lot of distance wedged between a few former friends and I, and I think I was worried. Things turned out fine this year - if anything, I’ve strengthened a few friendships.
- Don’t let others twist my view of the world. I’m thinking about this one, and while the negative example I gave (my then-housemates) ended up fizzling out, I can’t say with confidence that others haven’t changed me. I’m in a weird place at the moment, where my usual abstract perspective isn’t quite as clear. I’ll have to give this one some time before I’m sure.
- Write. An utter failure, but one that I’m passionately rectifying whenever I can. I really want to get this book out by Easter.
So… all in all, not bad. Which is good. My resolutions this year effectively amounted to staying sane, and every failure on the list isn’t a frivolous one - I have deep insecurities about my writing, and it’s only lately that I’ve been working on fixing my attitude. There have been some serious lows this year, and some staggering highs, but I’ve come through stronger and all the better for it. I think next year, I’m going to build on the base I’ve established to do some truly brilliant things.